Day-to-Day Doings I read that somewhere. I wrote it down, and then I read it.
Saturday, September 25
High scores and knowing the deal.
Ahhh, I'm in a great post Red Sox mood tonight since we managed a nice win over the Yankees. Yay us! (Baseball for those of you across the pond).
On a different note, I had an interesting train of thought yesterday due to two things I usually pay NO attention to. Op*rah and Sex & the Ci*ty. I rarely watch the first, and have never watched the latter as a matter of principle.
It was about a book called "He's Ju*st Not That In*to You". Simple premise, but something more men and women should consider. I've been working off this premise for a while now, and it really does make your life a lot simpler in many ways. The basic idea is that if a guy isn't calling you, or making time to see you then he's not that into you. Message is don't make excuses about it, don't say he's too busy, he's this, he's that... just accept that it's not really moving along, and if he was REALLY intersted, he'd be calling and making the time.
The book is written by a man, to let women know the deal and to try to help free men to tell the truth about what they are feeling rather than laying down all the lame excuses and end of the night "I'll call you" lines. Everyone would rather have the truth and just be done with it. It's the wondering that drives people mental.
I don't have the book, not sure if I'll get it, but it's in line with how I've been feeling about things. As a girl, I've spent time wondering when the call is coming, why we haven't talked, if we might get to hang out again, having plans cancelled on me, last minute calls, all that crap. We've all had it, I'm sure. But a while back I decided that if I'm not getting what I expect or want, they're either not interested, or I shouldn't be wasting my time hoping for it. If they call, fine... we'll see how it goes, but I'm not going to tie up my mind and time with things that aren't happening anymore. It keeps you from seeing other chances and others pick up on the vibe that you are otherwise occupied.
Bottom line, don't waste time on someone who's not showing you the attention you either deserve or expect because if they liked you as much as you like them... they would be making the effort. Think about it, if you like someone, you find the time to call, you can make plans even if you're tired. If it's important to you, you figure out a way. If it's not, then you don't bother. I don't think it's all or nothing, everyone has busy times and things come up... I just mean that the idea of not making excuses is totally on target. If you're finding yourself saying things like "he's really tired, working a lot, I know he's stressed out, he said he'd call but he lost track of the day", etc. there's probably something not quite there.
Please, if you aren't sure if you are registered, or know that you are not, make sure you register to vote in this year's elections. Don't be passive and assume that your vote means nothing, the right to vote and the ability to do so is wonderful and one that people still fight and die for all over the world. Make a choice and vote to speak your mind. It's important, believe it.
There is a link right over there ---> to find registration deadlines by state, so check there and do what you need to do.
On another note... Heather is headed on a little CA vacation next week and it's just driving me nuts that I can't join in. Although I could probably squeeze the time out, I don't have the funds to make the trip. Grrrr.
My big plan this year (as it began at least) was a really nice CA road trip where I'd start out in So Cal and head north by car, up the PCH. I was sooooo looking forward to it, but it never came to be. I'm really hoping it's still something I can get done sometime in the future. The hard part is finding someone who's willing to do the trip and has the time, not really the trip itself. So hopefully I can make it happen.
Sophie is on the road down to FL for her new start, and hopefully everything is going well. I'm not sure when she's supposed to get there, but I assume by the weekend at the latest.
I've spent a little time thinking about a new car, which I honestly can't afford (not NEW new, just used new), but my car is sending clear signals that it's on its last year (being optimistic here). So I've put out a few feelers for what I might want, etc. and I'm just going to start keeping my eyes open in case something comes up. I think I know what I want, but I'm not going to bother going into here. I'm sure you all understand, the "car advice" and all that just isn't really necessary since I have so many people around me to do that. :)
Alrighty, I have to go stop Grey from eating the rug... so I'll check you guys later.
So another friend is moving away from the group. It's sad to see friends go, but I know they will still be my friends and there is some comfort in that.
Sophie is heading off to FL to start a new life, and although she is leaving, it's really nice that she is moving toward something new and with hope, rather than moving away from something as some people have to do in life. When my friend Rosi moved it was the same way, towards a new start, new home, new life... and I guess that's the best way to do it.
I met someone recently, just as casual meeting, etc, but he's moving to CA (leaving today in fact) and going to start a new path there. It makes me sad to see people going, but there is the envious part of me that wishes I had the guts to make the change. Or even to have the reason to do it, something new and exciting to set you in a new direction.
I look back sometimes on my near-move to CA about 6 years ago, and I wish I'd gone. I know that it was best at the time that I didn't, but I now often wonder if I'll make the move. When I was dating someone from CA, it was always in the back of mind that if things progressed, it may be in my future, etc. When that ended the idea sort of fizzled again. Maybe in the future something will drive me in that direction. I guess I want a reason, like my friends have had for their recent moves. I'd like something to move toward, and not just away from. I'd be leaving a lot here, so I'd want something wonderful waiting since the move would be difficult.
So, for my friends who've moved and are moving towards some new and exciting things... good luck to you and you're always in my thoughts. :)
So I thought I might actually be turning a corner in my social life where things were picking up, maybe even have some choices, all that junk. But no. Seems the avenues have fizzled up once again, and it's famine time. I'm quite used to famine, that's my normal status, so not a biggie. :)
We have a little par-tay coming up this weekend for a couple of friends who are having birthdays so that will be a nice afternoon, but not until Sunday. I'm on doggie-duty for my parents for a couple of days prior, so the timing works out well.
Ooookay. I'm supposed to do my update tonight, but that computer isn't even on, so I think it's going to have to wait until tomorrow.
It's been a very long weekend, but I think everyone at our event had a really good time. You can tell when you see the tired and a few hung over faces that people spent a lot of time partying, so that's a good indication we did something right. I'm glad for that. Now I need a day to recover and sleep.
I was not feeling well this morning, and Heather was nice enough to pick me up a big ol' soft monkey (I have a lot of cute stuffed monkeys, but only the ones that look cartoony, not the ones that really look like monkeys, ya know??). Anyway, he's soooo soft, like a baby toy... I'm going to sleep with him tonight. Mmmm, plushy. The cats are fun to sleep with, but they don't stay put and they get pretty grumpy when I try to use them as a pillow, so the monkey's got the job.
Okay, I have nothing more constructive to add tonight.. so off I go.
